Doomed Romance

By


Two people meet and at the very first meeting, they share an undeniable chemistry. They face obstacles, bad things happen. Their love is tested. They fail, fall and maybe decide to never see each other again. But ultimately they overcome all odds and adversity. And as a grand prize to their tenacity they finally get to be with each other. Lips lock and happily ever after until the credits roll. 


Sounds familiar? A lot of romance movies are written this way, romance novels and even some of top 40 chart songs carry on with this same formulae. And this formulae is damn effective. The ultimate goal for 2 leads is to end up together or maybe end each other together. 

But what's the point of this story if these two never get to be with each other. Is it a description of failed relationship?
                        Will you be alone forever since all romance ends in tragedy.

This formulae is called Romanticism . Though no single relationship follows the same romantic template but they all have same broad outlines.

                                                        Romantic Template  
  • Feelings :   When in love we let ourselves guided by them
  • End of Loneliness : We believe true love must end all our loneliness  
  • Love and sex : One cannot exist without the later
  • Accepting : everything E V E R Y  H I N G  
  • No practicality: All that goes disdain and in vain
  • Marriage: Deeply hopeful about forever.
It is highly beautiful and enjoyable when one is in love. But the salvation of love lies in overcoming these successions of errors and myths.
                                     Succession of errors
  • Love and sex: may not belong together.
  • Money talk: is not betrayal of love.
  • Flaws: both could be as flawed as the other.
  • Loneliness: we might not find everything in one person but maybe in ourselves.
  • Communication; making rather artificial efforts to understand  can help sometimes
  • Practicalities: arguing is not trivial

MYTHS
  • Meet an extraordinary person of inner beauty. There we click.
  • Highly Satisfying sex,not only at starting but forever.
  • We should never be attracted to anyone else.
  • We should understand each other intuitively.
  • We don't need an education to love.
  • No secrets ,spend  constant time with each other.
  • Our lover must be our soulmate, best friend,co partner, accountant etc.
We have to  be disloyal to emotions that get us into it in first place. Don't believe in Forever.
                                                         AND IF IT DONT WORKS... 
then remember that doomed relationship,  represents a different type of goal  that you dont even know was needed for you. 
A lesson where the trials of romance provide necessary conflict for an important internal discovery...your own PERSONAL GROWTH.


    -WE LIKE BECAUSE, BUT WE LOVE DESPITE- 

                                                                                                                                    -anshika 


Comments

Post a Comment

Popular

Goa

By
Image
Date : October 2023 Place : Goa Goa reminds me of freedom....roaming around at night with coastal wind gushing through my hair....like nobody cares The waves hitting the land and that sea smell .... sand sticking on every inch of my skin.  Goa has a mysterious touch to it away from glamourous Casinos parked in the middle of Mandovi river... The old Goa witnesses Portuguese houses against test of time.  With colorful pottery and konkan food.... Xacuti crab and coconut water.... Goa is not just it's beaches but also it's food and culture.       
Read more

every GRAM of INSTAGRAM

By
Image
 I don't believe in social media except YouTube which I don't consider as one because you have to go to the linked social handles to get in contact with these people on youtube.  I firmly believe that social media is futile, which is why I choose to not use it. But I'm not on the bangwagon of hating social media either. — I hate my Phone yet feel so naked without it — ◾Since , most of the viral moments take place on these platforms ( Twitter, Instagram,Facebook). Ofcourse you might feel the need to keep up with it. The FOMO strikes us all. But what is it that you are really missing on? 10-20 years down the line would you bother to remember what meme went viral in your 20s , what celebrity wore what to their wedding? What they named their kids? Or what controversy some influencer got embroiled in?   The real moments take place around you and you miss out on them when you are immersed in some virtual world. In your 40s not mine! How would it feel to have your memories filled
Read more